Grief.
It’s such a tricky response to loss.
Come and go. Ebb and flow.
Stuck at times. Almost normal at others.
Grief.
My daughter has mentioned to me a few times since my BFF Joyce’s death in February that I haven’t dealt with the pain. The loss. The unfairness of it all.
I know I haven’t, but the emotion, the process, is not something you can make happen. I can’t pencil in days on my calendar and say, “Okay, today I will deal with grief and, when these days are checked off, I’ll be all better.
Doesn’t work that way.
I have learned that I can prolong the sadness by avoidance. I believed I moved from “not ready to deal with it” into “avoiding dealing with it” a couple of months ago. And when that happens, a person usually begins exhibiting some negative type of behavior. Mine has been hyperactivity, which tends to be my go-to.
Ever done this?
If I can just stay busy enough, my subconscious whispers to me that I’ll be okay.
Get better.
Heal.
My subconscious lies. Avoidance through hyperactivity just prolongs the inevitable.
Grief.
It’s tricky.
How do you handle loss? I’d like to hear your positive and negative processes.
Maybe we can heal together.
